Tuesday, May 26, 2009


I was talking to a young wife recently and this is how the conversation went...

-She really wanted to stay at home with her kids one day when she became a mom but wasn't sure about leaving her job to live off of her husband's salary alone. She said that she hoped that her child's future caregiver would not tell her when the child experienced his/her first landmarks, such as crawling, talking, etc. She wanted to be able to pretend that her first time to witness those things when she was off work was really the "first" time that they had happened. She shared with me that a female relative had found a great daycare where they had followed this pattern. She was hoping she could find the same, because she was going to be miserable if she was reminded how much she was missing out on at work.-

This conversation has pierced me and sent me on a tangent of thoughts. Why is it in our culture that staying at home with our children is shameful if we have an education? Don't get me wrong- I feel the pressure. Daily. But, wouldn't it be a beautiful thing if the moms of us, who could choose to stay at home, did and actually invested all of our education, time, and energy into producing the Godliest children this world has seen in generations? Sure, we wouldn't be the families with the fanciest houses, the newest clothes, or the slickest cars, but maybe, more of us would be happy. Maybe, more of our kids would stay in church when they left our homes one day as adults. Maybe, this world would see a revival and renewal that would shake its very foundation for the glory of God's name. Maybe, we would find out all of the stuff we really "needed" was not really a need at all. Jesus was enough. Because, He is.

"But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine... Older women... are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and their children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their husbands, that the Word of God may not be reviled." Titus 2:1-5 (emphasis mine)

I'm reading an incredible book right now. "God, Marriage, and Family. Rebuilding the Biblical Foundation." by Andreas J. Kostenberger. Check it out!


Chas Ray said...


Jamie Ainsworth said...

I can completely relate to this mom's thoughts/feelings. For us, we hope David can stay home (not because I don't want to, but this would be the best arrangement for us). I don't know if or how it'll work out, but I'm having to trust. Yet I stress always about it. What a shame we have to even worry/ponder it. Having children is a joy yet all it seems to do it pressure us in ways we really shouldn't feel pressure. Sigh.

Ana Louise said...

You should tell her some now have kiddie cams where you can go online and see you child through out the day. While I know it isn't the same, to see your child happy, I've heard, helps. I love watching children though, so I guess if everyone stayed home I would be out of a job. I do think that daycare is better than keeping your child at home but not being able to interact because you are telecommuting.

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